18 Dec 2016: Matrimonial Bed Setting (安床) vs. Bride’s dowry (摆嫁妆)
It was really hard for me to get excited about wedding. Wedding of my dream was simple, simply simple. However, it was just a dream.
I chose to go through all that trouble one year ago despite reluctance, because I love my mom and the other half who so obsessed with doing it. So it became one of my projects, a 12-month project.
We followed almost each steps of Chinese wedding practice like present betrothal gifts and setting up matrimonial bed.
Our Feng Shui master told us that our Matrimonial Bed Setting (安床) must be done at 1-2pm. His sister’s parents-in-law are goodlife aunt and uncle. We asked them a favor to set the matrimonial bed.
Required items including:
His family came to KL on the 11 Dec 2016 weekend to present betrothal gifts. Then, my family went to Johor the following weekend, 18 Dec 2016. This was the first Batu Pahat trip for my mom and sisters. They sent my dowry to his house at 2-3pm.
Bride’s dowry including:
Is wedding a waste of effort, money, time? Maybe yes, but I think I start appreciating it when I see our families are doing all these for us together. Marriage is bonding of two families and wedding is a way to make it happen. It also giving me chances to receive friends’ wishes (Just say gong xi to me please ;p).
In short, it’s worth the hassle.
I chose to go through all that trouble one year ago despite reluctance, because I love my mom and the other half who so obsessed with doing it. So it became one of my projects, a 12-month project.
We followed almost each steps of Chinese wedding practice like present betrothal gifts and setting up matrimonial bed.
Our Feng Shui master told us that our Matrimonial Bed Setting (安床) must be done at 1-2pm. His sister’s parents-in-law are goodlife aunt and uncle. We asked them a favor to set the matrimonial bed.
Required items including:
- Red packet (红包)
- 2 oranges (两粒橙)
- Red bean (红豆，京果之一)
- Green bean (绿豆，京果之一)
- Lotus seeds (莲子：连生贵子)
- Lily bulb (百合：百年好和)
- Chamaecyparis (扁柏：辟邪)
His family came to KL on the 11 Dec 2016 weekend to present betrothal gifts. Then, my family went to Johor the following weekend, 18 Dec 2016. This was the first Batu Pahat trip for my mom and sisters. They sent my dowry to his house at 2-3pm.
Bride’s dowry including:
- Bed sheets (床单)
- Baby potty with red dates, eggs, peanuts and red packet (子孙桶，里面装着红枣，鸡蛋，花生和红包)
- Baby bathtub (婴儿浴缸)
- Washbasin (洗面盆)
- Red wooden clogs (木屐)
- Tea set (茶具)
- New clothes (新衣服)
- Chopsticks (筷子)
- Bowl (碗)
- Rice (五谷米：五谷丰收)
- Dried longan (龙眼干：福员合家)
- Chamaecyparis (扁柏：辟邪)
- Charcoal (木炭：有得叹)
- Scissors (剪刀)
- Ruler (尺)
- Five-color threads (五色线)
Is wedding a waste of effort, money, time? Maybe yes, but I think I start appreciating it when I see our families are doing all these for us together. Marriage is bonding of two families and wedding is a way to make it happen. It also giving me chances to receive friends’ wishes (Just say gong xi to me please ;p).
In short, it’s worth the hassle.
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